惭愧和内疚有什么不同？（二）

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本文是我的第372篇英语知识文章

昨天罐头菌翻译了上半段，对于愧疚和内疚做了分辨。那么生活中该如何处理自己这种情绪呢？罐头菌今天继续把下半段给大家翻译，顺便一起学英语~

一.如何把愧疚转化为内疚？

I think that just knowing the difference between the two is sometimes anaha experiencefor people, if you can identify when you feel shame and sort of do some double-checking, you know, "Is it really fair for me to feel like a bad person because I lost my temper with my kids today? Dose that mean I'm a horrible parten? Or am I generally a good parent, but this was a bad day, and I did a bad thing and let me address that and makeamends, reconnect with my child and think about ways to avoid that going forwards,"as opposed togetting mired in shame, shame, shame.

我认为仅仅知道这两者的区别就足以给人吨无感，同时当你感到愧疚时，你能对此反复核实。“因为我今天对孩子发脾气了，现在让我感到自己像个坏人，这合理吗？这是否意味着我是一个糟糕的家长？或是说我总体上来说是个好家长，但今天是糟糕的一天，而我做了一件坏事，让我把它解决掉，并做一些补偿，重新连接我与孩子的关系，并找出方法避免这种情况再发生，”而不是陷入无尽的愧疚当中。

1.aha experience 顿悟感

Eventually we get that Aha experience.

事实上，我们确实是有所顿悟。

2.as opposed to 而不是

The box is made of plastic, as opposed to wood.

这箱子是由塑料做的，而不是木头。

I think shame is such a selfish emotion. It's all about me. It's not about the person that hurt. It's, "Me, me, me, me, I'm a horrible person," witchtakes the focus offof the person you've harmed.

我认为愧疚是一种自私的情绪。这里面所有的情绪都是关于我，而不是关于那个被伤害的人。这全是“我，我，我，我是一个糟糕的人，”这让你不再关注那个被你伤害的人。

1.takes the focus off 移开注意力，忽视

She takes the focus off your hair and puts the focus on you.

将你的集中力从头发移开，集中在你自己身上。

二.如何处理生活中的“被期待”？

Yes, I guess it depends whose expectations you're thinking of. If it's our own expectations, maybe they weren't realistic, or maybe we expected too much. I think that in this world now, which moves so fast, I mean everybody's overloaded. There's something wrong there!

是的，我认为这取决于你认为这是来自于谁的期待。假如这是来自于我们自己的期待，可能是因为他们并不现实，或者是我们期待过大。我认为现在这世界发展迅速，每个人都负担过重，这其中有问题。

Aboutmeasuring up toother people's expectation, that's a really important one, and I think it's critical to separate out what other people's expectations are of you and what you own expectations are, what youe own values are. And we care about what loves one and other people think about us, but ultimately, we want to be ture to our own values and be sensitive to others who may have different feelings, different ideas. Explain to the other person, "You know, you expect me to do X, I understand that you'd like me to do that, but I'm doing Y, and this is why. It's really important to me."

关于满足被人的期待，这是非常重要的一点。我认为关键要将别人对你的期待、你对自己的期待以及你的自我价值区分开来。我们很在意所爱之人与其他人对于自己的想法，但最终，我们会想实现自己的价值，而且会对其他有不同感受，不同想法的人感到敏感。向他们解释，“你希望我去做这件事，我很理解你想让我去做这件事，但我在做另外一件事，这对我来说非常重要。”

1.measuring up to 达到（期待）

Is it measuring up to its name?

这是否名如其实？

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