我们选择逃避

这段关于逃避的文字写得太美了，原谅我原文摘抄在这里，并努力翻译一下。

There is nothing that gets in the way of success more than avoidance. We avoid hard conversations. We avoid certain people. We avoid hard decisions. We avoid evidence that contradicts what we think. We avoid starting a project until we're certain of the outcome.

我们逃避——困难的对话、特定的人、困难的决定、那些与我们的思考相冲突的证据、那些结果不确定的项目。

To justify our avoidance, we lie to ourselves. We tell ourselves that we’re noble — we don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. We tell ourselves we don’t want to offend others. We tell ourselves that things will get better. We tell ourselves that things will get easier. We tell ourselves that we can avoid the real issue without any impact. We tell ourselves we'll start when the time is right.

为了逃避，我们欺骗自己。我们跟自己说我们是为了不伤害别人的感受、说我们是不想冒犯别人，说事情会好起来的，说事情有一天会变得容易，说我们能够回避真正的问题而不带来任何影响，说我们会开始的，如果对的时机到来。

Sometimes we muster up half the courage. We have half the conversation we wanted to have. We do half the hard thing. We acknowledge the evidence but convince ourselves this time is different. We see the person we’re avoiding but don’t really talk to them. We start but don't commit to the project.

有时候，我们鼓起一半的勇气——我们展开一半的对话，做完一半的难事，承认那些证据但是说服自己这次跟以往不同，见我们逃避的人却并不真正地对话，开始项目却不真正地投入。

And here’s the interesting thing. Half-efforts tend to make things worse, not better. When things don’t get better, it only reinforces that we shouldn’t have said anything in the first place. Avoiding isn’t better, it’s just easier.

然而，一半的努力有时候只会让事情更糟糕而已。然后我们又说服自己，你看，逃避才是对的，逃避才是容易的。

Not only does avoiding today make the future harder, but it also almost always makes the present harder. Avoiding puts you on a hair-trigger, anything will set you off. We all do this. Who hasn’t entirely avoided a hard conversation with their partner about something only to find themselves in an insignificant argument over something trivial? Of course, the petty fight isn’t about the trivial thing, it’s about avoidance of the hard thing.

逃避不仅让未来更难，它也让现在变得更难。

Everything becomes harder until we stop avoiding what's getting in the way. The longer you wait the higher the cost.